I often find my PNP clients don’t lose weight because they are always committing to things the don’t want to do. Friends, family, and co-workers find them easy prey – meaning when THEY want something they know who to ask to sacrifice their goals to help them achieve their own.
It’s not that we are surrounded by vultures. These people we truly love and like…most of the time. LOL. We simply set a tone of always being willing to…
- eat cake when our best friend needs an eating partner when THEY are emotionally eating. Emotionally eating is more fun with a partner in crime.
- blow off a workout because our kids want to go to IHOP for dinner instead you hitting the gym.
- not pack our lunches because our husband didn’t feel like helping with kitchen clean up.
I can go on and on with ways we let people take over our lives slowly but surely. It’s the little things that keep us from our goal of losing weight.
You need to take inventory of how many of the little things you let stand in your way of making progress with losing weight. Really examine your time. Most of are really busy and when I say really busy I mean taking on lots of people, things, and events that don’t make us happy.
There are days I want to talk on the phone with my friends when they call but I’m working from home. I can’t grow a business if I take everyone’s call. Is that being a great friend? No. But I’m a good friend because when they need me I am there…I’m just not there every time they are bored in the car. They all know this. I’ve told them ahead of time to call whenever you want and if I have time to talk I answer. If I don’t, I just let it roll. I can’t tell you how many people I know who have no time to get things done but they can tell me every detail of everyone’s life.
You know who I learned this from? My husband. He rarely takes my calls and he ADORES me. Trust me, the King is all about his Queen but when he’s working he has things to get done so he can be with the Queen and Prince when he gets home. I get that. He doesn’t need to take my calls when I just want to hear his voice. I can hear it when he comes home and doesn’t have to work.
I guess today I’m just looking at people and shaking my head when they say they are too busy to cook for their kids, too busy to prep some snacks and light lunches on Sunday, and too busy to move 20-30 minutes a day. I guess they are and most of them are too busy with things to distract them from what they really want.
After four years of dealing with women I know a few things. When I first talk to them about what they want they say the same things: I want to feel good about I look, I’m tired of feeling bad all the time, and I want to lose weight for the last time. If you really want those things you gotta change your environment way before you will be successful in just cutting a few calories.
Take a look at your life. It’s time to be committed to you and the things you WANT just as much as you are to everyone else. It’s not selfish. It’s normal to want to be better and then act on that. It’s not normal to slowly kill yourself with stress, overeating, and exhaustion. Normal is being YOUR best. If you aren’t able to be your own best you are not your best for everyone else. You are just convenient.
